Over the past few decades, slowly but surely parts of my essential nature became known again. I began to feel more alive and in touch with that magical, mystical Soul Self within. Essential nature is what we are, essential as in fundamental, basic, important, and vital. These describe the simplicity of Self. It is what it is. You are what you are. There is great power in realizing this. Even though we learn to complicate it all, we never lose our essential nature and we can return to being self-determined.Read More
Words that Emerge
As I considered what is crucial for leaders to embody in a time when everything is changing fast and when we are being called to connect with each other, human to human, and learning how to be more humane in the process, I realized, again, that we need to know we matter, than what lies within us is good and real and alive, and that everything we need to give what we are here to give is waiting inside of us to be shared with the world. And, that through this creativity that we are each so capable of sharing, we will find the new and exciting ideas and possibilities we need to solve our most vexing problems.
As leaders, we are designers of containers in which people can be fully creative, in which they can emerge with everything they have to offer to the organization, community, city, family, the world.
Love-based leadership has many qualities. Here are three…Read More
Either you believe you are a creator or you do not. While you might have vacillated between these two beliefs throughout your life, at some point you have to take the leap, you have to claim the power you hold as a human being — the power to create.
This choice is within you in every moment. This power to create is immense and it is loving. It wants to give. It wants to pour itself into the world as an expression of love and compassion and joy.
Can you feel this?Read More
On the surface, we might seem similar or very different, but under the surface, something strong and alive pulses inside us.
Here, under the surface, we are very much alike.
Under the surface, we long for something, and this longing is more than just a simple whim or desire that comes from our more pedestrian human lives. It is way under the surface. Way down where marrow enlivens bone and blood runs thick, hot, and blue.
We don’t trust what lies within us, but at the heart of who we are is a love so powerful that it must unfold itself into the world because when it does so, life increases, life grows, life expands — and this is what allows life to continue.
Repressed anger is a source of power. Once freed, it returns to our vital life force, to eros, to desire. Anger liberated reconnects us to our vitality and agency. This power frees our creativity, expression and voice.Read More
While it might feel as if there are two worlds — the one we see and the one we intuit, sense, and ‘see’ in our imagination — one is born of the other and sometimes, if we are lucky, this realm of the unseen reveals itself to us through form, shining clearly the light that is of all things. Oh, the dry lives we lead when we presume to believe the truth of matter and science as the ultimate language of our existence.Read More
It’s a practice to learn to stay in connection in conversation rather than resorting to needing to be right or explaining to the other person what’s true and ‘how things are’. We can learn to not fall into the trap of believing that we don’t know what is true for us. When we do, it becomes much easier to stand in our own authority without denying the other person theirs.Read More
To truly heal the victim/victimizer polarity within ourselves and within the world at large, we must be able to hold them both with conscious awareness and great love. They both exist inside each one of us.Read More
As we become more and more embodied, becoming conscious in these places that have been numb for so long, we must feel the old feelings that have been held hostage there. The journey into my body, consciousness awakening in the cells, has brought me deeper down into the root and into the place where our sexuality and creativity rise up out of. I discovered a great amount of grief was stored in my body, most recently in this sacred place where our sexuality stirs. This isn't surprising considering the world we must inhabit as women, this world where women are denigrated and shamed for being sexual creatures, while at the same time being objectified in a way that tells us our sexuality (and the erotic) is for men yet not for ourselves.Read More
To be fully expressed, this is key. Otherwise, we are expressing what we see in the outer world rather than the new freshness of soul in its own vibrant intelligence. As creativity becomes more important in our outer world, this capacity to hear and liberate what is within becomes more vital. When you liberate yourself from within, you add to the liberation of all of life and you enhance your capacity to do the deeper work in the world that requires your inner strength, resiliency, compassion, power, intuition, and joy. These are all within you waiting to be set free.Read More
I know I need you. I need to know I matter. But more importantly, I need to know I have something to give, something that in these moments makes a difference, in the everyday moments, when another needs something that only a human being can offer. I was fortunate to see that my instincts offered were graciously received and that in some small way the love I offered made a difference. This was the huge gift I was given. The love that came through me knew what was needed. I was the one, though, that had to act for it to do so.
Will we act upon our caring when we don’t know how to but know we must?Read More
The struggle for freedom is a creative act — but an error many of us have made in the past is to believe the struggle is for our personal freedom, for our personal equality, for our personal world to be bettered.
No longer can we afford to see freedom and creativity as such. Freedom and creativity have never been about the personal. Even when one is creating in solitude as an artist or a writer, what comes through that creative act is always something for the whole never just for the creator.
The idea that we are individuals first and foremost is and has always been wrong. Our individuality is born out of the wholeness of life.Read More
We can relearn how to be in this world. We must relearn how to be in this world. Our bodies know. Our souls know. We might be afraid. We might not understand ‘how’ to do this. But life can and will guide us. We relearn by listening to life, by trusting life, by learning to trust ourselves and the deep wisdom that lies in the marrow of our own bones.Read More
“When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don’t blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce.
But the feminine is not moving within all of us because we haven’t become conscious of how she is within us. And we become conscious of how she is within us when we come to see what is hidden within us, when we find the courage to face that which we haven’t wanted to see. When we do this, our hearts can break open. Our compassion can flow. And, our love can pour forth.
We can come to remember our wholeness.Read More
As I’ve contemplated this dance between Eros and Thanatos, I’ve wondered if I (and any one of us) can truly make a full choice to stay, can truly choose this once, or if it has to be chosen over and over and over again. And I’m not just saying this in the large sense of life or death, but in the small moments where it feels like you will die if you stay and can only survive if you run, or when it feels like you will die if you run and can only survive if you stay. Moments in relationship with others, with yourself, with your work, with a creative project.Read More
We are not logical creatures. We never have been. We are imaginal beings, sacred to the core, mystical beings appearing as real live people, here to awaken love, here to find delight and joy in living, here to not turn away from ourselves or each other when we forget what we are.Read More